||Becoming a grandmother. Birth -- Child rearing today. Parents back when dinosaurs roamed the earth. Parents today. Don't say anything, ever -- Face time with your grandchild. Babysitting. Not babysitting. What you can do. Shelling out. Presence -- Parent, schmarent : you and the kid. Grandmothers who fly. Besotted -- The paternal grandmother and cutting grandma some slack. The auxiliary grandmother. Cutting grandma some slack : a note to the parent -- Afterword.